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Your girls Thando and Flika.
Me? Use a dating app? Are you out of your mind Iām not desperate! I donāt need the internet to help me find a man, I can do it all by myself. Iām on old fashioned kind of girl, I want to bump into him at the grocery store, then weāll have this really intense immediate connection.
Heāll walk me to my car where we will stand and have a long chat about everything and nothing. Weāll realize itās getting late then heāll ask me for my number and Ā we will ride off into the sunset together. Right? Wrong! If I meet a guy at the grocery store, Iām in a rush and donāt have time to chat and I just want to go about my day unbothered so donāt you dare approach me with your mannes while Iām busyā¦ Soā¦ How am I going to meet him again?
This was my biggest dilemma when it came to deciding whether or not I would embark on this online dating mission. Then I read an article that said that we all go after our goals, we decide what we want to do we research and do everything that we can to make it happen, but we expect love to just fall into our laps like mana from heavenā¦
So that tipped the scales and this year I decided that I was going to grab the bull by the horns, or rather the phone by the app store and download as many sites as I could, because variety is the spice of life, right? So, I downloaded eight dating apps, yes, EIGHT! Excessive? I think not, Iām on a mission to find my love!
And can I just say that online dating is nothing like I thought it would beā¦ but everything that I thought it would be as well. I have met some really creepy guys who just gave me chills down my spine and not in a good way, Iāve met some childish and immature men, I have met really random men and had the most stimulating conversations with them and I probably never would have given them the time of day had they approached in real life. I have met some really amazing men, but they just werenāt for me.
I have struggled with my natural gut instinct to be vain, (what can I say I like things that are pretty to look at). I have struggled with what to say to these men, how much of myself am I willing to share, do I really want to talk to a man that is halfway across the world from me? Why can I not find any good-looking scintillating conversationalists who will give me butterflies.
Have I met my future baby daddy yet? Nope, but I sure am having a blast in my effort to find him. Iām playing the dating game and it sure is fun! I have learned not to take it too seriously and try to think of it as game. Because Iām holding out for my butterfliesā¦
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Your Girl
Thando
Online dating is something that I am quite familiar with. For the last two years I have been on and off dating apps. From tinder to badoo I have been there and tried it. Through all of this you must give the internet credit, it really has changed the way I date and communicate with āfuture suitersā. Not only do I get the option of filtering out matches but I also get the opportunity to explore different men and chat to as many guys I want, all in an environment where it is acceptable. I have met some great guys on these apps, some I have dated for a short while, some have left a smile on my face and made me laugh and some I can talk to even if there is no romantic connection.
Because I have tried many online dating sites I have a lot of fun stories to tell and laugh about with my girls. The truth is dating that dating be it online or real life is hard. The two just have different issues. Iāve that online dating just has its own issues and hurdles. One of them is the issue of dick pics. When you meet a guy at a bar you have less of a chance of him sending you a random dick pic than you do on a dating app. Other issues that I have found on dating apps are ghosting (then again they ghost even if you met in person, men can be such idiots). Or you match with a guy and you never know what that first message will be (thatās if he sends you one at all). Iām always praying that is it something normal and not another guy asking me if I like threesomes. Donāt get me wrong, I always have a good laugh and so do my girlfriends when I tell them my dating app stories but after some time it can get exhausting.
The thing with online dating is that we are constantly spoiled for choice, I get to get to talk several suiters at one time and really decide with whom I have a better connection with. If Iām being honest though this also comes with its own problems, forgetting information of the people you are talking to can become quite embarrassing. Those who have experienced online dating will know exactly what I am talking about. You see, when you meet a guy in a social setting, itās just you and him, you spend the night in conversation and sharing information. On a dating app you are doing the exact same thing except this time with five other guys and keeping track of whoās an engineer and whoās a lawyer can become a little complicated, but like I said, having the choices is great too.
Luckily, I get to have these chats with my girl Thando, after I realized that we are all experience online dating differently, but at the basis of it all, we all have similar stories. Whether itās online dating, blind dating or just the good old-fashioned type of dating we have all seen and experienced some crazy shit. I feel when it comes to online dating it is a choice, whether it is for you or not you canāt deny that most communication these days has moved towards technology, the choice is whether you want you use this form or not. I chose to use it and I have found happiness, confusion, fun and sometimes heart break, what has been your experience?
Your Girl
Flika
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Your girls Thando and Flika
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